I wish I was young again. Not because of the body I wouldn't appreciate or do proper maintenance on anyway. I've just been thinking about what makes it harder to link up with someone once you exit your 20's. The guy you marry at 21 or 25 or even 27 is a lot different than the man you marry at 36. The 27 year old guy can still be finding himself in some ways. He could be finishing extended curriculum like med school or a law degree. He still feels lucky to find someone to love him earnestly even though he's choking with debt and just getting started in life. Or he's somewhat established but he's still that 20-something guy wherever he works and relates more to his peers from college and high school. You marry in your 20's and you literally build a life together.
Getting married or even seeking each other beyond mid-30's is another thing altogether. It's a major purchase, pored over like a mortgage, negotiated like a car deal, and with the wariness that comes with wondering if there is something seriously wrong with your betrothed. They have either managed to come this far in life unattached for reasons you can't imagine as the smitten kitten you are. Or they have exes and often children with THAT backstory and potential fatal flaw that you may see repeated in your relationship. I want to go back to just hoping he likes me too.
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