Vegas baby-analogies in love

So I'm going on this date Friday and I'm already pretty sure the whole thing will be underwhelming. Not long after, perhaps as early as that evening or Saturday morning, a funk will begin to brew and I'll wonder why I keep running headfirst into the hope wall. We all do it. Even as our girlfriends envy that someone even asked us out at all, we lament that he asked us out, he being yet another guy who wasn't the 'one.' 'Why do I keep getting guys who do this? Why can't I find a guy who does that?' All the familiar refrains are echoed, we declare ourselves terminally single and then get right back out there again. Why? Because gambling is an addiction and almost all of us want to hit the jackpot. When we whine about a crappy date, what we are really doing is waving a worthless lotto ticket; 'This is a loser. This game sucks.' There is no winning strategy. There really isn't. Every time someone wins, they've beat the odds. We all want to copy a winner's ways but the truth is there is no winning way, only winners who arrived there a certain way.

I met my husband at work. What cute single guys do you work with?

I never dated men I worked with. What you've got to do is join a singles hiking club.

I sowed my wild oats in my 20's. That way you get a lot of experience and get a better sense of what you want both romantically and sexually.

I was a virgin when I got married. It meant the world to him that he was my first.

He's never going to leave her. He just wants you on the side and doesn't care at all about you.

He left his wife for me. You know everyone said, he's never going to leave her but I knew what we had was real.

Men like bitches. They've even written a book about it and that's how I got Steve. Men don't like nice girls.

He was my best friend first and we trusted each other with everything. He considers me his safe place and he is mine.

For some reason, we want to take someone else's story and use it as evidence of where we've been going wrong. We're looking to eke a philosophy or methodology from someone else's good fortune to apply to our situation. We're trying to play someone else's winning numbers. And if it works, no one will be able to tell you there is any other way to win. But you should still consider yourself damn lucky because the house usually wins.