Beware the banter zone

Right now I'm enjoying the stuff of sitcoms. I write this guy and within minutes my phone is zinging with a return volley of witty repartee. It's all word play and witty, very nerdy and not at all flirty. Girlfriends closely following developments with these tremors of a social life, and especially Soul Twin want this to be more. She wonders why two people who obviously love playing with words aren't producing zoo noises in the bedroom and already joking about names for our children. She encourages me to 'put myself out there' which when I look at the phrase, just cracks me up. I picture I'm being shoved out to work the corner in a pair of shiny pink hotpants.

What I keep telling Soul Twin is guys are not mysterious when they are interested in you. I don't have to wonder if he likes me or likes me the same way or really think much at all when it's mutual or he just wants me more than he cares about me possibly rejecting him. I don't have to wonder if or when it's okay to call him and I'm not crushed if I have to leave a message. I don't believe in pins and needles anymore. That's the stuff of movies, helping women believe a man who wants you would be mysterious and restrained, friendly perhaps but never flirty, attentive without being stalk-y, and handsome. It's true both men and women can be intrigued but not ready to jump in with both feet but within a pretty reasonable timespan, it's clear where he'd like to go with things. My guess is we are in banter zone and are much better on paper than we are in person. If we kick sex out of the equation (e.g., let's decide it will never happen), then I think we could become friends if he's interested in having more friends.

The point is, when you do more talking than anything else, you're in the banter zone and that only culminates into making out when your life is sponsored by the writing staff from Moonlighting. I checked with my writing staff before this post and I don't know who these writers are or if they are any good but they are definitely not working on a romcom and feel the banter-leads-to-make out-session shtick is beneath their considerable creative talents. So onward and upward I guess. At least he's funny.