Saturday, January 22, 2011

No, no, no! You're doing it all wrong!*

"It's like getting a bad massage, you know when they rub all over you without really working out any knots? Just leaves you agitated and wanting a good massage even more."

--Ava to friend after date.

I hate that a man I will never be with continues to be my benchmark. Naturally I stalked him down on Facebook (naturally, isn't that what YOU do on Saturday night?). Looks like he's got a kid now in addition to his lovely wife and in Facebook-land couldn't be happier. When I saw his picture, I thought, eh, not really doing it for me. I'm glad I found him because it reminded me that I didn't want him. Though I was primed to, I couldn't begrudge him his apparent happy ending, I just wish I had mine too. It is too much to ask for a toe curling kiss every decade or so? You don't even have to buy me a drink. Just be an excellent kisser. I need a glimmer of hope that I can feel that good again. A consolation prize of sorts. I suspect like most women, I'm wired in a way that makes that nearly impossible without some kind of emotional attachment. Annoying.




*Quotation from one of my Military Training Instructors to our flight. He said this to us so often it became a part of our cadet skit and still resonates with me. Nothing like hearing someone yell that at the top of their lungs. I think every kid should have the experience of being away from home, living like a prisoner, and being yelled at by strangers. So much fun to look back on.

3 comments:

Lodo Grdzak said...

Military life. Always thought I could've been a good soldier. At least in one point in my life. Not a tough soldier mind you; but an eager one. 'Course that's a pretty bold statement to make w/out backing it up in anyway. I suppose I may have had a nervous breakdown too. Probably could've gone 50-50 for me.

Terog said...

I think you'd be a good soldier Lodo, I really do. When gets right down to it, you give me the impression that you move out and get it done.

Lodo Grdzak said...

Well,...your opinion on that matter actually means a great deal to me Ava. So thanks for believing!!!